How to Be Realistic and Think Positive as a Family Caregiver

One of the hardest things we can admit to as human beings, no matter what situation we are in, is what we can or can’t handle. When you take on the role of a family caregiver, though, this becomes even more difficult. There is a part of us that feels bad or guilty for not being able to do it all. We can’t do it all, but we can control how we respond to each day. Our attitude has always been the root of how we respond to any given situation, so we can be realistic and think positively about our role as a caregiver. Remember, you will do the best that you can, but there will be times that you need help along the way. Getting help, being realistic, and thinking positive all go hand in hand. Here are a few tips and tricks that can help you each day:

Confidence

When we were young teenagers and would have a bad day at school, we would come home and feel like the world was ending. Part of growing up was learning that the sun still came up the next day, and eventually mistakes become something we learn from. Confidence isn’t the reassurance that everything is going to be covered in rainbows and butterflies, it is that this too shall pass. You can do this, you can get through it! So, whether you use affirmations, or you need a mantra to repeat to yourself when you are going through something difficult, remember to re-assert your confidence. We do this by saying to ourselves, “It might be tough, but I can do this. I’ve got this.” Remember to always think positively.

Ownership

Remember to own your feelings. Ownership is about recognizing that we feel a certain way, and that it is okay. Ownership is NOT about telling everyone else how we feel until they feel that way too. If you can say to yourself, “I feel guilty, but I’m doing everything I can.” Then you are owning your feelings. If you start to say, “I feel guilty, and I don’t know if I’m doing everything because there is so much to do.” Then it might be time to reach out for help. This self check-in can help you stay realistic about what you can handle.

Limitations

You can’t control the impact of a disease on your loved one, which means that you will need help sometimes, do not be afraid to ask for it. If you feel overwhelmed, or are having a hard time owning your feelings, or finding your confidence, you have reached an emotional limit. Give yourself a break, find a support group, and get help. If you feel bad about leaving your loved one alone, then seek out respite care for a few extra hours so you can take care of what you need to take care of. Also, remember to listen to your body, it will let you know when you need food, exercise, rest, and more. When your body speaks, listen, and give it what it needs. Don’t forget your medical check-ups. You can’t care for others if you don’t care for yourself.

Stay Connected

Being a family caregiver doesn’t mean that it has to take over your life, as a matter of fact, it may become even more important to be more social and find support when you become a caregiver. Stay connected with other caregivers who understand what you’re going through. Join a class and stay connected with friends or make new ones. Find a friend who will help you check in on you, make sure you are staying positive and being realistic.

Avoid Depression

Depression can often be managed with talk therapy, medication, or a combination of both. Watch out for signs and symptoms of depression and reach out if you experience any of them. Caregivers have also often found that they can avoid depression if they schedule a weekly visit with a therapist or support group before they experience symptoms. If you need a break or are interested in resources to help you find social communities to participate in, then we can help you here at Homewatch CareGivers of Ellicott City! We’re always here to support you and your loved one. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help.