It can be very easy as a family caregiver to get caught up in the day-to-day needs of loved ones, other family members, and any other responsibilities. Sometimes this can weigh on us psychologically, causing us to feel burnt out, overwhelmed, and physically exhausted over time. There are many ways to combat these feelings, but one of the easiest ways to get started is by using our own mind to lift us up and get us through the day.

How you respond to any given situation during the day is something you can control, and this begins with how much patience and clarity you have mentally. Staying healthy, eating well, and staying active all play important roles in your ability to provide great care to your loved one, but the power of positive thinking can also make a huge difference.

First, Recognize Where You Are Emotionally

Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.” Our attitude towards any given situation can often be the biggest barrier or the greatest gift when it comes to getting something done. In order to think positively, we need to recognize where our attitude is, and adjust it if necessary. Here’s how to recognize where you are emotionally:

How fast are you going, and why? Chances are if you’re going through the day in a hurry, you are feeling anxious, stressed, or upset. Take a second once you start feeling this way to stop for a moment, slow down, breathe, and adjust your attitude.
Check your breathing. Are you breathing heavily, quickly, or too deeply? This can be a sign of distress or worry. If you feel this way, it might be time to make a conscious decision to adjust your attitude, and calm down.
How loud are you being, and what is the pitch of your voice? Try to pay attention to your voice when you’re talking. Are you louder than normal, is the pitch of your voice higher than normal? These could be signs that you’re upset, angry, or stressed. The moment you realize that this might be the case, it might be time to stop for a moment and take a deep breath, collect your thoughts and try again.

Second, Adjust and Think Positively

Being realistic and thinking positively after you recognize that you need to calm down and relax takes practice. Try using these tips and tricks to help.

Be Confident – Reassure yourself that even though whatever you’re going through is a tough job, you can do it. Remember that you are capable of doing what you need to do, or finding the help to get it done.
Be Responsible for Your Feelings – Feelings aren’t right, wrong, or otherwise. Feelings just are. This means if you feel sad, angry, or resentful, then you probably have a valid reason to feel that way. Take responsibility for how you feel, and choose to get help if those feelings start to impact the care that you're providing.
You Have Limits – There are things you won’t be able to control, such as the impact of the disease on your loved one, or how they feel about it. Recognize that you’ll need help and don’t be afraid to ask for it.
Listen To Yourself – If you’re tired, hungry, or sick, your body will tell you. Listen to yourself and give your body what it needs. Watch out for symptoms of depression, and remember that you are capable of being an awesome caregiver.
Listen to Others – You need support as a caregiver, this means talking to other caregivers who have been through what you’re going through, and talking to family members who can help you. Find ways to stay active outside of your caregiving role, and take time to have a personal life.

Third, Insist on Getting Respite Care

Outside help when you know that you’ll be in charge of someone else's health and safety is very important, it helps you stay balanced. Don’t forget that at Homewatch CareGivers of Ellicott City we’re here to support you with passion and purpose. We can provide a few hours of companionship, temporary post-surgical support, or even 24-hour elder care. The possibilities are endless. Contact us today to learn more about all of the different options there are, and how affordable it can be.